Signs of a toxic friendship

We hear and read about heartbreak everywhere – in movies, songs, books, articles – but not many people seem to talk about the end of a friendship. Yet, losing a close, long-term friend can be as upsetting as losing a romantic partner. There could be elements of shame at play, such as fear of being branded as immature for placing too much importance on the … Continue reading Signs of a toxic friendship

Coaching vs therapy

What are the differences between coaching and psychotherapy? The cliché that coaching focuses on the present and future while therapy focuses on the past isn’t just a cliché but also a myth, as there are forms of therapy that don’t dwell on the past, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), and forms of coaching that allow for deeper self-examination. In a previous article, I described … Continue reading Coaching vs therapy

Spirituality vs religion

The word ‘spirituality’ is often associated to religion, but the two in fact have more differences than similarities. Religions tend to be lists of dos and don’ts. If we follow the rules, we go to heaven; if we don’t, we burn in hell. Spirituality, on the other hand, is a never-ending quest that begins with the big philosophical questions: Who am I? What is the … Continue reading Spirituality vs religion

Fear of public speaking

A friend told me that fear of public speaking, aka glossophobia, was the most common human fear. He was trying to reassure me, as I’d been feeling nervous about a presentation I had to give at a coaching workshop. I was relieved and sceptical at the same time. So I looked it up and it was true: some research actually suggests that human beings fear public … Continue reading Fear of public speaking

Identity & self-identity

In psychology, identity is a set of qualities, beliefs, looks and expressions that make an individual or a social group. Self-identity is a set of beliefs we have about ourselves, such as racial and gender identity or academic and professional success. In short, it is the answer to the question: Who am I? Self-identity differs from self-esteem, which is our emotional evaluation of our own … Continue reading Identity & self-identity

Existential coaching

Coaching has become very popular in recent years, especially ‘executive’ coaching – which is unsurprising, in the corporate-oriented culture we live in. But there’s a wide range of options: from spiritual to relationship coaching, to name but a few. The one that resonates with me the most is existential coaching. Philosophy was one of my favourite subjects in school and existentialism my favourite philosophical theory. According … Continue reading Existential coaching