Healthy aggression vs anger

Anger is definitely an unpleasant emotion. Like fear, it is classified as a high-energy negative emotion, as opposed to low-energy ones, such as sadness or guilt. Yet, is there such a thing as healthy aggression? Fear and excitement produce the same physiological response: a rush of adrenaline that prepares us to defend ourselves or run – fight or flight. Similarly, there is a close physiological … Continue reading Healthy aggression vs anger

Qualities of a good coach

Choosing a coach or therapist can be an important decision, financially and emotionally, and is therefore a little daunting. It can also mark the beginning of a personal transformation journey. What are the qualities you need to look out for in a coach? First and foremost, you have to like them – the ‘chemistry’ is key to creating a successful coaching relationship. But if someone … Continue reading Qualities of a good coach

Signs of a toxic friendship

We hear and read about heartbreak everywhere – in movies, songs, books, articles – but not many people seem to talk about the end of a friendship. Yet, losing a close, long-term friend can be as upsetting as losing a romantic partner. There could be elements of shame at play, such as fear of being branded as immature for placing too much importance on the … Continue reading Signs of a toxic friendship

Coaching vs therapy

What are the differences between coaching and psychotherapy? The cliché that coaching focuses on the present and future while therapy focuses on the past isn’t just a cliché but also a myth, as there are forms of therapy that don’t dwell on the past, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), and forms of coaching that allow for deeper self-examination. In a previous article, I described … Continue reading Coaching vs therapy

Spirituality vs religion

The word ‘spirituality’ is often associated to religion, but the two in fact have more differences than similarities. Religions tend to be lists of dos and don’ts. If we follow the rules, we go to heaven; if we don’t, we burn in hell. Spirituality, on the other hand, is a never-ending quest that begins with the big philosophical questions: Who am I? What is the … Continue reading Spirituality vs religion

Fear of public speaking

A friend told me that fear of public speaking, aka glossophobia, was the most common human fear. He was trying to reassure me, as I’d been feeling nervous about a presentation I had to give at a coaching workshop. I was relieved and sceptical at the same time. So I looked it up and it was true: some research actually suggests that human beings fear public … Continue reading Fear of public speaking