We all want to be happy, but fewer and fewer of us seem to be achieving that goal. Statistics tell us that an increasing number of people in industrialised nations are suffering from anxiety and depression. Consumerism works to manipulate us into desiring material things and into believing that these things will make us happy. This, of course, isn’t true: an expensive new car, or … Continue reading Why practise mindfulness?
Anger is definitely an unpleasant emotion. Like fear, it is classified as a high-energy negative emotion, as opposed to low-energy ones, such as sadness or guilt. Yet, is there such a thing as healthy aggression? Fear and excitement produce the same physiological response: a rush of adrenaline that prepares us to defend ourselves or run – fight or flight. Similarly, there is a close physiological … Continue reading Healthy aggression vs anger
Choosing a coach or therapist can be an important decision, financially and emotionally, and is therefore a little daunting. It can also mark the beginning of a personal transformation journey. What are the qualities you need to look out for in a coach? First and foremost, you have to like them – the ‘chemistry’ is key to creating a successful coaching relationship. But if someone … Continue reading Qualities of a good coach
We hear and read about heartbreak everywhere – in movies, songs, books, articles – but not many people seem to talk about the end of a friendship. Yet, losing a close, long-term friend can be as upsetting as losing a romantic partner. There could be elements of shame at play, such as fear of being branded as immature for placing too much importance on the … Continue reading Signs of a toxic friendship
What are the differences between coaching and psychotherapy? The cliché that coaching focuses on the present and future while therapy focuses on the past isn’t just a cliché but also a myth, as there are forms of therapy that don’t dwell on the past, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), and forms of coaching that allow for deeper self-examination. In a previous article, I described … Continue reading Coaching vs therapy
It’s flu season again and, like most men, I’m not very good at being sick. I have fairly low pain threshold and tend to feel pathetically sorry for myself when struck by the nasty virus. It really feels as though I’ll never be well again! In the English language, there’s a colloquial term that sums up men’s inability to cope with illness: man flu. Personally, … Continue reading Man flu
The word ‘spirituality’ is often associated to religion, but the two in fact have more differences than similarities. Religions tend to be lists of dos and don’ts. If we follow the rules, we go to heaven; if we don’t, we burn in hell. Spirituality, on the other hand, is a never-ending quest that begins with the big philosophical questions: Who am I? What is the … Continue reading Spirituality vs religion