We all want to be happy, but fewer and fewer of us seem to be achieving that goal. Statistics tell us that an increasing number of people in industrialised nations are suffering from anxiety and depression. Consumerism works to manipulate us into desiring material things and into believing that these things will make us happy. This, of course, isn’t true: an expensive new car, or … Continue reading Why practise mindfulness?
The dream of success seems to be what drives the self-help publishing industry, where every other book that comes out is on how to achieve success! But success can mean vastly different things to different people. What is your definition of success? And can being successful make you happy? Our achievements can bring us satisfaction, but once a goal is reached, we soon start looking … Continue reading On success and happiness
Anger is definitely an unpleasant emotion. Like fear, it is classified as a high-energy negative emotion, as opposed to low-energy ones, such as sadness or guilt. Yet, is there such a thing as healthy aggression? Fear and excitement produce the same physiological response: a rush of adrenaline that prepares us to defend ourselves or run – fight or flight. Similarly, there is a close physiological … Continue reading Healthy aggression vs anger
Meditation is often thought of as a religious practice, as certain meditation techniques involve the repetition of a mantra, which is similar to reciting a prayer. But there are other approaches that are totally non-religious and non-sectarian. One of India’s oldest meditation techniques, Vipassana means ‘insight’ or ‘seeing clearly’. It invites us to focus on physical sensations: from obvious ones, like hot and cold, to subtler … Continue reading Non-sectarian meditation
Choosing a coach can be an important decision, financially and emotionally, and is therefore a little daunting. It can also mark the beginning of a personal transformation journey. What are the qualities you need to look out for in a coach? First and foremost, you have to like them – the ‘chemistry’ is key to creating a successful coaching relationship. But if someone doesn’t reveal … Continue reading Qualities of a good coach
We hear and read about heartbreak everywhere – in movies, songs, books, articles – but not many people seem to talk about the end of a friendship. Yet, losing a close, long-term friend can be as upsetting as losing a romantic partner. There could be elements of shame at play, such as fear of being branded as immature for placing too much importance on the … Continue reading Signs of a toxic friendship
What are the differences between coaching and psychotherapy? The cliché that coaching focuses on the present and future while therapy focuses on the past isn’t just a cliché but also a myth, as there are forms of therapy that don’t dwell on the past, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), and forms of coaching that allow for deeper self-examination. In a previous article, I described … Continue reading Coaching vs therapy